Again, its been a while. So much is happening in my life I don't feel like I can write about on my blog because its so personal and there is a certain lurker that checks in practically daily.
In a cloak of mystery, we had a major move planned that is rapidly falling apart. I am beside myself trying to decide what to do.
Do I still try for my first choice city even though its a (very) long shot but has a good job opportunity? Go for the second choice which is a long shot? Move to a financially feasible city that wasn't even on the table of choices? Or stay put and save more money?
Oh the choices!
I should know by now that life never seems to plateau, even just for a little while. Its not just me, all of us have challenges constantly thrown our way. Sometimes they just seem so overwhelming that I become stunned into a state of indecision. I always appreciate people sharing their experiences, as it makes me feel less alone knowing I'm not the only one who has gone through something like this. I know others mean well when they give (often unsolicited) advice, but when the advice is given without regard to what is meaningful to me and comes across akin to ordering a child what to do, its more hurtful than helpful.
I've had everything from:
"What your real problem is...is those dogs of yours. Just give them away then you'll have a world of choices open to you."
"If you are serious about moving and want to as badly as you say you do, you wouldn't be so materialistic. Just sell all your furniture and clothes and travel light. Then you'll be set."
"If you're really determined to move and need money, just sell your car and use that money to move. You can always get another car in a year or two."
I realize everyone has the best intentions and these may have been choices that worked in their life, but don't necessarily apply to my life as neatly.
So here I sit, time rapidly ticking away with me bumbling around trying to figure out the best choice. I know this is part of the growth process of life and we are never fully "baked" in that sense, but why does growth have to hurt so much?
4 comments:
Oh! There's no way in any incarnation of life that those dogs of yours are a problem! They're your family! To be fair, I don't think pet-less people can understand just how very important dogs are.
We had briefly considered giving up all our worldly possessions (but no canine or feline family members), and moving somewhere new as minimally encumbered people. It was liberating, until I really thought about everything we'd be getting rid of, and then it got just plain hard to really really think about. Circumstances changed and that's not on the table. And there's a big relief in that. No, we don't want to limit our lives because of our possessions, but I think some of the things we accumulate in life are proof of where we've come from and what we've been through, and I think it's okay for it to be hard to let go of that. I think it's okay to keep some of our past.
Anyway, this is my long-winded way of saying, you know what's right for you, and I have no doubt that you'll find a way to make it happen, no matter what "it" turns out to be. XO!
Giving away your possessions is a great thought. . . until you look at what it would cost to replace them. Giving up your dogs? Would you tell someone to give up their children to open up their choices?! People can be incredibly insensitive.
I'm finding that even when you think you have things figured out, the game changes on you. I don't have any answers or even any advice. Just know that we are thinking of you and at some point it all has to turn around. Hang in there!
There is no way on earth that you are giving up your babies...I understand that.
I sold all of my "stuff" twice. Once to move to Hawaii and once to move back. I have to say, it is actually kind of liberating. I have thought about having an apartment sale and trying to get rid of stuff I have now...LOL It collects so fast.
Truthfully, the only one that can make your decision is you. There is only one place on Earth that you know I think you should stay far, far away from. Personally, I think you should make your way to that place that is your first choice and with the good job opportunity and make it work. You can do it. In all honesty, I think you should make that move by yourself. All a matter of opinion, of coursea and also out of concern and love.
Whatever you do will be right, though.
I am sure of that. :)
It blows my mind how people think they know best for everyone! Good luck with your decision making. I know what you mean when you're so overwhelmed you become stuck. I'm hoping you'll receive some clarity soon!
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